Part I
Some of you may remember my cat Pha (short for Alpha) as the endgame in the chess match I called “Squirrel Wars”, which winterwoman was kind enough to make a Guest Post on her beautiful blog.. In the second installment I called her Frankencat, because she was a monster toward the squirrels when tied on a long leash outside, which she begged to do whenever it wasn’t raining.
Well, last night this cute and cuddly creature decided to go wild and be Frankencat toward ME!
Some background on her might be of help. Now I’ve no notion of her breeding, except that she’s what some people call a lynx-point Siamese, really just an exotic name for a blue eyed, mostly light colored cat with dark ears and dark stripes on her haunches and tail. There’s no real standard I know of, and to call a cat a lynx-point Siamese is a derogatory term to real pure blooded Siamese fanciers, who believe they are just good Siamese genes ruined by indiscriminate breeding. They may be technically correct, but the two I’ve owned have been among the finest pets I could imagine, good-looking but not pretentious, loyal, playful and loving. What else could an ordinary guy like me want from a cat? Pha was two years old when I adopted her from the Humane Society, and all they could tell me about her was that she had just given birth to a healthy litter of kittens a month or two before. We’ve been together two years now, so she’s been a content, indoor cat for at least those two of her four years pre-Frankencat. Before that, who knows? Abused, neglected, Top Cat’s lady love in one of the neighborhoods? I have no clue.
She’s been a very undemanding housemate, content until this past month to sit on the window sills and stare at the birds and other critters (of which there are a variety) outside my small apartment. She’s a very, very finicky eater, but hey, to each its own.
Then along came Frankencat, which I admit I had a large role in creating. Now it’s “in and out, in and out” in all kinds of weather and all times of day or night. Something dormant has awoken within her, and she’s emulating some of nature’s most efficient predators, the larger wild cats. I think to myself sometimes “My God, what have I done?”
My health has been poor in the last year and I’ve had to take her to the kennel a lot while I’m in the hospital, but she’s always loved it there as Queen of the Cats, which is how they treat her. As Frankencat she was there for 5 days in early July, with no noticeable change in demeanor. She’s always glad to see me and happy to come home.
But ever since my parents’ beloved 14 year old Welsh Terrier had to be put down in early summer, I’ve been wanting to slowly introduce Pha to their house in the hopes that in time they’ll become close friends and maybe enjoy taking her for a few days now and then if necessary (did I mention good kennels are becoming expensive?).
Last night was to be her second visit to bond with Grandma and Grandpa. I packed up her litterbox after dinner and headed over in my car, a normally routine 15 minute drive for a cat that’s always been a good rider. Last night? Huh unh! I realized after one block that it was not Pha in the car, but Frankencat. She meowed, paced and shed like crazy, jumping from one window seat to another, giving me wild looks, and standing on my lap whenever I’d let her. Clearly she thought I was taking her back to the kennel, and I spoke to her soothingly, telling her she was a good kitty and we were just going “over the river and through the woods” to Grandmother’s house. After all, she’d been there once before and there were no problems. But she was wild with feline adrenaline and fear.
Finally we arrived, and I got her in the house with no problems; she even made note of where I put her litterbox in their sunroom. She started to sniff around the whole house and I breathed a sigh of relief: Frankencat had been temporarily tamed.
I went outside to check on my herb, pepper and tomato plants. Deciding some were dry and needed watering I filled a can with the hose and took care of that. I went to re-enter the house through the sliding screen door and never noticed an antsy Frankencat on the other side until the door was a few inches open. I’m here to tell you, mice have nothing on Frankencat when it comes to getting through incredibly small openings. I kept the door almost shut and started to bend down to tell her to back up when “Wham!”, she had squeezed through that little crack and past me like a greased pig.
In shock for a second, I stood there waiting to see what she would do. She sniffed lazily around a few nearby bushes and I thought “oh good, this isn’t too bad, I can get her”. I took ONE STEP in her direction and “See Ya!”, she sprinted to some nearby woods. This was around 7:15 pm.
I went back into shock, because I knew that after about 20 yards those woods opened up onto a sidewalk and a very busy highway where cars are routinely over the 50 mph speed limit. How street smart was she, I wondered? Before I got her, was she really schooled by Top Cat? She’d certainly been nowhere near a road or highway since I’d gotten her, and I could only imagine the worst. I tried to give it up to God for a few moments, but doing that with a loved one can be excruciatingly hard…
It’s All About Balance
I was lucky enough a few years back to serve as a Circlekeeper in a Restorative Justice for Juveniles program in Wisconsin. It required me to operate Peacemaking Circles as an alternative to prosecution of juvenile offenders in the formal court system. If you’ve ever read the book Spirit Bear you know just what I’m talking about. If you haven’t, here’s the short course.
Native Americans and other indigenous cultures around the world lived in close knit communities where everybody had a vested interest in the actions of others. Their spiritual beliefs centered around the ideas of circles, and in this country this belief reached its zenith with the development of the Native American Medicine Wheel. They had noticed that the natural world often came in groups of four: the four directions (east, south, west and north), the four winds, the four seasons, the four stages of life (infancy, youth, adulthood and old age), the four elements (earth, sky, water, fire). They perceived of such things as a vast, unending circle, with all parts connected to and complimenting each other.
Thus was born the medicine wheel, a round hoop, divided by string or animal tendons into four quadrants, representing physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health. It was their belief that a warrior on the good path had to keep all four of these areas strong and vibrant at the same time, or else the wheel would be unbalanced and sickness of some sort would develop. When an individual did something that offended the community, these peacemaking circles of elders, family members and other interested parties would gather to inquire into the health of the four areas and try to set the wheel in balance once again. Sometimes talking was all that was necessary; sometimes a form of active restitution was required.
(Interesting to note here that a bicycle wheel operates much the same way: if all the spokes are not properly tensioned the wheel wobbles and is said to be out of true, or out of balance. Wonder who first came up with the phrase out of true?)
At any rate, when these peacemaking circles gathered a “talking device” such as an eagle feather was used, and passed from member to member. Only the person holding the feather was allowed to speak, forcing everyone else to listen with attentiveness until the feather reached them and it was their turn to speak. (One can only dream about adopting such a practice into some of our local government and talk show show formats.)
The main point of these circles was to inquire into the offenders medicine wheel balance, and imbalance could come from any of the four quadrants. Perhaps someone’s physical balance was off because they’d become lazy and fat, no longer doing their share of community work. Perhaps their emotional health was impaired because they had deeply buried hatred or resentment they could not shed, or had such low self-esteem they kicked dogs and abused other animals; perhaps they had become mentally imbalanced as well from too much liquor or peyote or some other substance, or their ego had run amok; and, finally, perhaps they had become spiritually imbalanced because they no longer adhered to the teachings of the old ones or their personal practice of the sacred rituals had ceased. Whatever the case, as the talking feather passed around the circle, everyone had an opportunity to address these imbalances as well as ways to restore balance, both for the offender and anyone he may have harmed. Until white culture overran their efficacy, these circles kept the peace within individual tribes for hundreds of years and were in many ways much more effective than our criminal justice system today.
But my work in Wisconsin led me to the sad realization that such “communities” rarely exist in our culture anymore, red or white. Small pockets exist here and there, but generally we’re too isolated and afraid to get involved in some of the most basic situations. For example, if you were entering Wal-Mart and overheard a parent berating his or her child for no apparent reason, would you intervene? If a gang of boys was shouting obscenities at a poor solitary gay guy, would you speak up? Sadly, most of us would not, and would simply get as far out of the area as quickly as we could. As I traveled around Wisconsin I found it hard to find “elders” and other interested parties willing to participate in these circles anymore. This was particularly true with law enforcement and other juvenile justice workers, even those in the legal profession like me. They all thought it sounded good, like homemade ice cream from the past, but preferred the easier and more familiar products of the present. Less time, less uncertainty, less need to challenge their thinking. And the kids? It took them FOREVER to grasp what we were trying to do. We’d give them copies of Spirit Bear, which helped some, but for them it was mostly an alien concept, unknown to their older siblings and friends and only brought up in school by dedicated counsellors like my dear friend Suzanne Milkus.
So it’s kind of up each of us to tend our own medicine wheel balance now. Yoga, meditation, prayer, body scans, an active spiritual practice, reading, loving and empathizing with others are just some of the tools that have replaced the healthy community with a healthy sense of self. But it’s up to each of us as individuals anymore, unless we’re lucky enough to have found a new sense of community in a congregation of some sort.
But don’t be bashful either way. Go ahead and check those spokes as often as you can. We can get back “in true” with less effort than you might imagine. We were born with mind/body balance, so all we need to do is recover it.
Woodpecker